Welcome to the feeling of pain softens. And its connecting power. No emotion is more connecting, human and teaching than pain and no matter of its kind. It’s the connecting puzzle piece of our human species and foundation of empathy. And for what all the pain on soul and body was worth it, it softens me. Have you ever considered this perspective? I needed to. Pain is enevitable, suffering is not. Changing perspectives was helpful to thrive instead of being defeated by it.
What followed in 2017, was the lesson of softness. Softness became a life’s task for me to experience. How hard we treat ourselves, as women. Maybe it’s a german thing born in the myth of the „Trümmerfrauen“. In esseence, we are meant to be soft, protected, expanding and care keeping. Yet. have to so strong and harsh sometimes, on ourselves, at the world, we are stuck at being hard. A big revelation for me, how to be softer. Since it all starts within, I started to question myself. How I speak to myself. Goodbye inner constant critic. How I touch my own skin. Goodbye subtle passive aggression. How kind life is without the judgement. Goodbye to what I thought is right and wrong. How much fear I had towards men. Goodbye walls around my heart. And what better way to embody softness in some black leather? It still takes a little contrast, why not. Wrapped in silk and ruffles.
Outfit with Black leather jacket by Mango, green silk top by Dea Kudibal Copenhagen, cream skirt by Vila, black stilettos by Viktor&Rolf & Motorcycle Gaint Bag by Balenciaga.
TO BE CONTINUED
It’s been a while since I last wrote something on my blog, Instagram got me. So, I start with some meanwhile really old pics. This shooting in summer 2017 was before the reason I got so silent writing and blogging. Grief came into my by life’s strokes that are so unexpected, it kept me silent. So I put it into lyrics and poems when I was ready to open up. Soon for you to read, feel and connect on a deep level, hopefully. My style of dealing: making art.
Thanks to photographer Florian Schmidbauer with his fabulous ARTLIGHT fotodesign studio in Ottobrunn near Munich.